So if you cant live like this, why are you so reluctant to change?
I'm very grateful for everyone's help. I'm sorry if I'm being thick here but what do I change aside from what I said above?
You said this a couple pages back: it's not that I disagree but the wife seems to like this state of affairs as much as I do. she has told me she likes to be together as often as possible over the years. If not for the coldness at night you would not even know anything was wrong at my house. we are still doing our daily routine together. neither I or my wife has expressed any interest in doing things apart
This makes me think you are planning to keep the status quo. If you actually want to change, my advice is to follow Sandi's rules. My advice is to read Divorce Remedy and follow the process as it's described. Im not trying to be coy, but thats the best place to start. Follow the buzzwords --> detach, GAL, 180, act as if....
