Are you sure this is you just "stepping in"? Honestly, it sounds like maybe shes worried she cant meet your standards. You say she is a stay at home mom, but what is she DOING while staying at home?
So, I would imagine that she will continue this way as long as you dont 'rock the boat'. Can you continue living in this fashion for forever?
If not, maybe it's time to do some 180s....
she did say to me one time about a month ago that I think she is not good enough. I assured her that I never thought that. it's not re-occurring though. first time she ever said anything like that to me. she has also said that I am controlling her when I talk about our relation ship. this is not completely unfair as I am a fairly persuasive guy. I stopped talking about it though. she also told me that our wedding ring was a "slave" ring when I asked her to wear it again back in September. so I let it go and stopped wearing mine to show that there was no slavery.
she spends her home time making art. she is pretty productive but does not make much money. she is serious about it and trying to make money though. it is high quality stuff and generally well received when people see it.
I cannot live this way. I worry some every day even though I try to practice mindfulness and thankfulness. I am very sad. I am embarresed to admit this even on an anonymous forum but last week I looked at the "casual hookups" section of craigslist and fantasized about hooking up with some of the women who had posted there. My fantasy got a little to real and I felt I could actually see myself going though with this. I felt bad about that and have not looked again.
