I didn't really take over. Things just kind of developed this way over the years. She refused to drive because she is afraid she will wreck the car. She has no interest in cooking so I just kind of stepped up years ago so that we could eat good food. She does minimal cleaning so when something gets too dirty for my taste I just clean it myself. There was never any real discussion. It just kind of evolved. I can tell by the way that she talks about things that she sees this work distribution as equitable. It gives her time to work on her art. If I asked her to take on more she would not do it, would consider it unacceptable.
On the matter of "space" - what my W meant specifically was that I stopped talking about our marital issues, and I stopped trying to initiate sex or any intimate touching at all. I agreed to do this for October and then renewed my agreement to do this in November. She is expecting me to continue this way for December as well. She does not want to discuss us at all. She will only tell me that she is "sad" and "working some things out". she said that the space had improved things for her somewhat but she showed no evidence of this improvement to me because she is still sad and we are not talking or intimate.
