Lex, in terms of what you should do ... I think you should try to be a person YOU like yourself, and also a person other people would like appealing, and I'm not talking just women finding you appealing but everyone, including family and friends. Be a good, interesting person. When you & your wife were dating ... what were you like? What did she like about you?
I do like myself as I am. My co-workers like me and my friends do as well. I treat the W the same as when we met. it's slowed down a bit by our busy lives with the kids but I make her laugh and listen to her and show her love as much as she will still allow me to do so.
