I guess I didn't make my question clear. I was asking whether your W is mature enough and has the life skills to be an independent adult and a parent. It sounds like she is. She's not impaired by ... issues. Which is good. Maybe one thing you could do is to take steps towards letting her become an equal partner in running your family. Are you able to talk about difficult/serious things with her?
she is mature enough to take care of the kids. she would learn any skills that she doesn't currently have if she had to.
