Im not sure if id be on the hook for her out of pocket medical bills. My theory for removal was financial protection and/or removing a marital benefit, not to be a jerk. Isnt some of the DB stuff for her not to benefit off me and let the reality of losing me set in, right? Besides he had an affair with a married woman and is married himself, and my wife hasnt filed, i have no clue what hes like. i did not find any criminal record. My lawyer told me if i had filed prior to the kids meeting OM, i could have had courts limit his access, until further along in divorce preceedings because of it all being too much, too fast for kids, but now a past precedent has been set, cant undo it.
BH:30 WW:30 T:12 M:5 D7 S4 BD 7-28-16 S 8-28-16 3-15-17 wife filed 3-17-17 OM joint files with his wife
Apparently my detachment is not going well, wife just texted "so us the remaining christmas decor in attic to be mine?" Just sent my anxiety up, i was doing good today too.
BH:30 WW:30 T:12 M:5 D7 S4 BD 7-28-16 S 8-28-16 3-15-17 wife filed 3-17-17 OM joint files with his wife
I'll give you some advice from experience. I did just like you - swung wildly back and forth based on every experience and exchange. Fretted about ring, fretted about stuff, fretted about OM, and was anxious and sick a lot. XW got a new fun apartment, OM fixed her car, her life seemed idyllic, and I felt like I was in a black hole.
But a few things I did that I focused 100% of my energy on: 1. Said, "If you want a divorce, here's my lawyer's number - you can communicate with him." Refused to discuss again. If she wants it, let her do the work. 2. GAL'ed like crazy - working out, new haircut, new clothes, got a used motorcycle, etc. 3. Went out - I remember the first firepit/bonfire with my friends without her, and I don't think I heard almost any of the conversation, just sat there with a pit in my stomach. But I got through it, and before long, I found myself down the road realizing I had been laughing and having fun at a get-together. 4. Went 98.5% dark. I responded only to specific logistical questions like "Can you send me our car insurance ID #?" And when I did respond, I did so via email so it was documented.
Well i replied with a simple "no" come home to some of the christmas stuff in the attic gone.. R1. She hasnt bothered to file and ive made it clear over n over im doing the work for her. R2. Been working out, tucking shirt, cologne, occasionally dressing up, bought a new car. R3. I regularly spend time at friends houses, try going out but difficult with my friend circle R4. Ive been going with short upbeat polite responses when she does text. So am i doing good? Cuz i feel like im failing at this.
I wish the kids werent subject to her poor example of how to handle all this. Last night i asked kids if they got a bath when with mom. "No, i dont know why mom doesnt really take care of us anymore" was my daughters response
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BH:30 WW:30 T:12 M:5 D7 S4 BD 7-28-16 S 8-28-16 3-15-17 wife filed 3-17-17 OM joint files with his wife
Sound like you are doing great then! I have the luxury of hindsight, so as crappy as it feels right now, just keep sticking with it. I promise it works!
Also, instead of worrying about how the mom acts (I know it, it [censored]), just pour yourself into being the best dad ever. Honestly, some of the most amazing times of my life happened in XW fog - the kids and I went EVERYWHERE and had a blast.
