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[roist]

FTaking a few minutes to mention two things today.

I am just after dropping my sons to school and I met a mother we know. We chatted. I asked how her son and husband are. She is moving out this weekend!! That is the SIXTH couple we know in this small community to separate since I came to this site.

I am starting to feel untrendy to still want to be married.

Joking aside it does feel like a huge wave of ruptured marriages is sweeping us away and I am standing alone against this inevitable destruction. Trying to find a positive, we have outlasted these six couples. Maybe a good goal will be to not be couple number 7!

She asked how things were for us. I lied and said all is okay thanks

The second item I wanted some feedback on is my interactions with W. For the most part communication is limited. We exchange information rather than discuss. There are times when it is better but intermittent. At this stage I don't feel like talking to someone who doesn't want to either. So rather than say stuff, I say nothing.

If we cannot talk I don't feel like spending time with her either. Twice in the last week we started watching a film. Half an hour into it , I don't like the film so I go do something else. Both times W asked if I wanted to watch something else. Both times I suggested she could continue watching it as she had started.

The thing is that my W is always available to do NOTHING with me. We could spend every evening doing nothing together on the couch. When I come down from putting son to bed and if she is on computer I think she is busy so I go do something. Later she may tell me she was just doing that whilst waiting.

Sometimes it feels like a wasted opportunity as myW is available. At the moment I prefer doing stuff without her. If I could choose I would choose spending quality time with her. But productive or quality time without her is more attractive to me than poor quality time together.

Recently I wrote that I didn't know if we were better or worse than two years ago. Now I think we are worse. When things slip towards being worse, I let them slip. It is hard to watch things slip, but trying to stop it happen enhanced the slip. Letting her have her distance does seem better.

Any thoughts?

Best wishes