This old spouse, lmfao, doodler you are too much...
It really is ridiculous that my state doesn't have legal separations, so for me to remove my legal attachment to her and any debt she accrues I have to pay the fees and file all the paperwork... She could literally not do anything, doesn't even need to respond to the serving of papers, I would be able to end the M, but at my expense and effort, even though she's the one that gave up.
Ugh...
Nothing about this is fair. The WAS will never really know the pain they inflicted, they may never feel remorseful, they might even feel they were the victim and always see themselves as the wronged party, they might even get lucky and find happiness with their latest A partner. Or they might mature into some deep and loving loyal partner just in time for that person. And they may be applauded by their friends and family for being strong enough to 'follow their heart' while they rip your children from your arms and deprive them of the type of fam-
OK, I'm going to stop right there. Calming myself before I lock up your thread. Point is, you're right, it's not fair. And that takes time to accept.
Just keep walking. Acceptance will come. And what's cool is at some point fair won't really matter because you won't need validation, revenge, or anything from her. Someday when you expect that it will never happen you'll wake up truly detached and realize 'fair' doesn't trigger you anymore because that implies some type of comparison or attachment to things out of your control, whereas you'll be such a rock that you'll only care about two things: Appreciating what you have and striving to do your best from where you're at daily. And when you do those things you'll ALWAYS be ok.
At some point she stops to matter and you do what's best for you. Pretending she was just a robot with no ties to you, would filing be best for you or is staying legally M best for you and your children?
Take care of yourself and keep fighting the good fight.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
