I guess I didn't make my question clear. I was asking whether your W is mature enough and has the life skills to be an independent adult and a parent. It sounds like she is. She's not impaired by ... issues. Which is good. Maybe one thing you could do is to take steps towards letting her become an equal partner in running your family. Are you able to talk about difficult/serious things with her?
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final