Try Not to Think Too Far Ahead

[HaWho]

Well, clearly she is super confused. I am sorry she has opted to go this route. They all try different magic pills and potions.

However, it sounds like your MLCer does sometimes voice some of her thoughts. One thing to consider is when she is spinning and even she's even indicating confusion is to say something very simple like: "well, there's no need to rush things. You are busy with lots of stuff. No decisions need to be made on the divorce this instant."

When my h was talking 24/7 about his shag pad being the answer to all his problems, one time, I calmly and quietly said: "there's no need to rush things."

For my h a look of relief washed over him. I think he was feeling soooooo much pressure that he felt he had to do something; anything really to ease the pressure. It didn't seem to occur to him that there was no need to rush things.

I can't say it'll slow your w down. But, I see some similarities in our sitch's in that mine too was panicky and outwardly expressed moments of confusion.

Maybe this is worth a shot? If you think so, my advice? Be calm, quiet, and nonchalant but kind of like it's not no big a deal to make this decision now. I totally faked my nonchalance as I was freaking out as he was acting so erratic. I was eating an apple during it to seem like it was no biggie. If she spews, maybe say "you have a lot going on now. There's no rush." Seem kind of distracted to affirm it's no big deal. Then leave the room.

My h seemed kind of hypnotized when I told him there was no need to rush things. It was so weird. For me, it was a HUGE 180 to act like this.