Yes, it's a good point from V. I would like to say that STOVER, doesn't mean all hope of a possible future R has to be lost. However, it does mean absolutely and truly accepting the 'old' M is over....not holding onto a little corner of that comfort blanket.

I also don't think it has to mean filing for D - though if that works for you then fine. But it does mean truly letting go of her and 'what was.'

It means making plans just for you and truly accepting her as gone at this point in time.

Who knows what the future may hold, but for now it is as it is...

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus