Of course she'll blame you. XW did the same thing - you are forgetting some of the core principles of DB, starting with ignore what they say.
I read somewhere else on here where someone said when they do the attacking it's because they NEED you to be the bad guy - so you justify their choices. If you are calm, kind, considerate, work on yourself, go dark and stop chasing, then all of a sudden you make them look like the person who left and is a jerk, and they can't stand it. I can tell you for a fact that's exactly what happened with me.
