I am gonna post my current thoughts so I can look back on my frame of mind in the weeks to come. I forgot to mention no snooping as well. I wasn't doing it a ton, but like I follow SO's sister's Instagram, so I just unfollowed it. Blocked on Facebook - anything where I can casually look. And I'm honestly not bothered anymore. Definitely no temperature taking.
We don't have anything like divorce proceedings or kids to accommodate any real reason for specific communication, so my idea is a touchpoint of communication after what will be about 6 weeks of going dark. Her birthday is Christmas Eve - she has complained how her family and ex's always just lumped her in with Christmas - so last year I made a big deal out of her birthday with flowers and balloons and a cake, and it made her so happy.
She said no guy in her entire history had ever done that, and she was just on cloud nine for weeks. I am thinking of doing something low-key this year - like a non-romantic card that just says "Hey didn't want your birthday to get lost in Christmas like usual, so I hope it's amazing!"
I have 3 weeks to think about it, so just tossing it out here.
