I would definitely post your thoughts and hurt. I probably should've given up DBing the XW a year before I did, but I'm pretty sure DBing turned my life completely around - just the GAL, the going dark, it saved me from the most chaotic hateful horrible XW, and helped me find the man inside she had beaten down.
I buried my sweet grandfather AND grandmother during this time, so I have an inkling how you feel and almost 5 years later, I'm so glad I stayed DBing until I was mostly healed.