Re: She moved out...now the work begins...Part 3

[SBJ]

j20, you are totally right...I need to stop commenting, but I see her 5 days per week. I told my kids that I would take them to school everyday that I could. This wasn't for her, but it was for me and them. I have taken them to school since my oldest started school 15 years ago. It is my time with them.

That being said, when I pick them up at her condo, I only step right inside the door and no further. I will stop with the compliments for sure.

As for the death/divorce comment...I only know what it feels like to me, but as for my marriage it is dead compared to what it once was.

I will work on stepping back. I have gone NC unless it is something she requests for the kids. That has been difficult in itself since we used to talk multiple times per day. It almost feels like she is using some of the same techniques...she has totally cut me out of her life. It totally stinks, but I guess she is trying her best to pull away and remove me from her life to find her "Utopia". Kind of funny, but I always sang the song from Alabama to her..."Close Enough to Perfect". It's hard to think about why they (our MLC'er) didn't see things as good as we see them. It's even harder to wonder if there will ever be a chance that they realize that what they are throwing away was what they needed all along. I guess that thought needs to be filed away for a long while.