Here we go again.. (2)

[matw]

So yesterday the W shared with me her schedule for when she is going back to school. She wants to be an addiction counselor and will be back in school for about 3 years with class work and clinical hours. So just by looking at her schedule I noticed that she will be going at nights when she is supposed to have the kids. I am torn about this and not sure what I should do especially if we are heading for a divorce.

If my state whoever has the kids more nights is considered the custodial parent. Our salaries are so vastly different that if I am the custodial parent my child support payment would be dramatically less. On the other hand I don't want to have the kids so much that it makes it "easy" on her. My therapist tells me I am very guilty of being way the ultimate Mr. Nice Guy and enabling her. Now don't get me wrong I would take my kids every night if I could and love them very much. I already have them 8 nights out of 14 days. With her new school/work schedule though I think that is going to move to 10 nights out of 14.. if not more. I am just not sure if I should tell her that she needs to work out sitters for them.. or if I should just take them. I just don't want to seem like a push over to her that will continue to enable her if I don't have to. Not sure if that makes sense...

On the other hand last night I didn't have the kids and pushed myself to go to a kickboxing class. I didn't really want to go but knew I didn't really want to sit in my empty house. So ended up going and worked up a sweat. It was hard and I was exhausted but was able to go home watch a little TV and sleep through the night. Tonight I get my kids for the next 3 days and I am pretty excited about it.