How old are the kids? How are they handling this? How is your H doing with the kids?
My daughter is 12, his son is 11.. we just told them a few weeks ago. My daughter was distraught, mostly because this is changing her everyday life. She calls H daddy, loves her life and our family, her school, etc.. she was also very hurt because throughout the last year H was spending a few night a week out of the house, and when she would ask he would just tell her that he had to work very late or help his friend. So she realized things were being hidden from her for some time. H's son was also very upset, but found comfort that at least for now, he still gets to have us all together when he's with us every other weekend, and while we still have the house he will continue to be here with us every other weekend, so the changes aren't "real" yet to him. He's also high functioning autistic, so he processes things differently. The kids are very close, they have been together since ages 2 and 3, and do not remember life without each other. She is very protective of her little brother and he has alway found comfort in being able to be himself around her, tells everyone she is his best friend.
H is saying all the right things to the kids, but not matching with his actions. In fact, he canceled on having his son for Thanksgiving so that he could bring OW to his parents. I find myself starting to feel more and more protective of my daughter, because I don't want to see her go through the pain of broken promises.
