I really like roist's posting to you. Your expectations need to remain very, very low and keep things on the slow track. Your h isn't baked up fully yet and it's going to take some time for that to happen. Also, just be mindful that the holiday season is starting to gear up and many of the MLCers do tend to be more present in our lives at this time of the year and then disappear after the holiday season. So, please do not put all of your eggs in one basket...keep some hopes in reserve for now. I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but I don't want your expectations to get so high that if he does distance himself again you won't be disappointed and hurt.
Now, about your friend. You can respond to all of her questions honestly...but don't discuss your relationship w/her any more. If she asks about it, advise her that it is a work in progress. I find that when people tell me that my xh has done something or asks about him, I just tell them I am not discussing that part of my life w/anyone. Generally, the old saying goes "a dog who brings a bone and will carry a bone", i.e., in other words, a person who tells you things will also take what you've told them and share it w/others, i.e., possibly your h.
I know you get discouraged and frustrated, however, that's why we call it the MLC Rollercoaster of emotions. One day is up, the next is down. You need to detach a bit more and keep moving forward. If your h wants back, he's got a lot of work to win your heart over again. Don't be too quick in taking him back w/o him doing the hard work.
He's inching his way along, don't rush the process and give him plenty of time and space to miss you and your daughter and the life you had together. He's definitely not baked up and ready to commit just yet.
