Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 7

[Surfer]

Sara,

I can see you are going through a lot at the moment. I hope you watched/listened the LRT clip I mentioned (if not I am sure you will find time).

Was you H like this with the 1st, 2nd and 3rd child? I expect not. I expect he changed. If he did, he can change back. You are taking a very strong stance and pulling back a little is the right thing to do. The clip I mentioned covers MWD talking about this in a physical context (your H's LL of course).

I know things are tricky at the moment as you seem to going from upbeat to spinning. Try not to mind read him. He needs to sort himself out, you can't do anything for him so don't try too hard.

Personally, I think family time is good, and LL use is good. But you have to so it at the right time, when they are receptive and when its the right time for you. If they are not being receptive or it's not working for you. Going dark a little seems like a plan.

Have you tried dressing a little sexy and going out to dinner with a friend but not telling him where you are going? MWD talks about this too - keep him guessing rather than you doing this.

I hope all of this helps.

You are doing so well. We all have wobbles where we feel its too much. Keep doing this you are an inspirational, just keep those emotions in check and rest yourself however you best do that. Be kind to yourself. You deserve that and much more.

He may be missing the supermum and superwife part of you, but keep going. He will see it eventually. He can't deny it forever when everyone else sees it.

Surfer.