Until recently, he's been attentive and loving. We had issues: I'm a bit distant, push people away, don't express emotions well, spent too much time away from home... I'm seeing a therapist for that now and the current issues.
His mom says he has depression in the family and it hits in the 30's hard. I think he is depressed, bit I also suspect MLC.
He's got a new female friend who's 10 years younger. Says nothing but a friend, but they hang it every Friday. He's started drinking a bit, which he never did much because he did was an alcoholic (who cheated on his mother, leading to the D). He says he's not a cheater, doesn't want to be at all like his dad...
He wants to be "friends". Not sure if he wants divorce at the moment. I asked if I should have hope for us, he says I should be "neutral". I don't want a divorce. I hink he still loves me but is just very confused. He admits his confusion. I plan to wait this thing out as long as I can.
We get along better now than ever. We're like best friend roommates who occasionally have sex. I've stopped the R talks/questions, trying to detach, GAL (but not too much, since that was an issue previously) on an antidepressant... Sheltering in place. Advice?
I am confused at the suggestions to detach and do a 180 when carrot says that her being detached was already an issue.
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
