Hmm. It wasn't suggested on here that you detach and do a 180 and gal....I dunno about that. You said one of your issues is that you weren't home often and out. You have a life. That may have been one of the problems. A 180 to you would be being more hands on and engaged. Why were you not home often? What were you out doing?

I definitely do think there is an EA and most likely PA going on.

34, xw33
M-10, T-18
2D (8 and 5)
Ilybinilwy-1/16
EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend)
Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated)
W moved out-8/16
W Filed 11/21/16
D final 1/30/17