Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[JRuss]

FG -- thanks for checking. Basically just in a holding pattern through the holidays, but I suspect some sort of separation proposal is coming after we get through that. Nothing's changed from her perspective as far as I can tell. I oscillate between feeling like I might be ok with it to abject sorrow. I'm doing better acting like it doesn't bother me even when it does, but that's mainly for the kids, as I realized my overt sadness was hurting them. It's a sad situation I fought really hard to keep from happening, but, as my therapist says, I just never had a partner in any of it. If she'd move a little toward me, who knows? But she wants exactly the opposite. I think I had a fighting chance had she not hired the Divorce Coach she calls her IC, but that woman got the trains running on time, and in short order, intimacy, affection, MBR -- all gone.

We will see. I've been reading up on how to be a good Divorced Dad. It's stomach churning worrying about it, but there aren't really any more arrows in my quiver. What can you do?