I'm sorry that things have taken a turn for the worse. I think I would have to advise my attorney that he/she is working for you, and not your wife. Are you being charged for her call to your attorney? Your attorney needs to be working w/you and only dealing w/you and her attorney.
In some cases, life gets a bit easier once the divorce is finalized. You won't have to walk around on eggshells and the heavy weight of her drama will be lifted from your shoulders. You have to remember that it's just a piece of paper and who knows what will happen down the road, i.e., the two of you could reconcile or move on and meet someone new who will not only respect you and love your children, but will cherish you for who you are. I know you want to save your marriage, but if she's that gung ho on a divorce, she can do all of the heavy lifting and hard work through her lawyer.
Kyh, I hope for your sake and the children's that she will settle down and leave things be until after the holidays.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
