So confused

[Zues126]

I start getting texts first thing his morning and she has been blowing my phone up all day. . Keeps wanting to come back to the house and make sure she hasn't left anything. Said if she just had keys she could do it without seeing me. It bothers her I made her give her keys back to me to the home. There isn't anything except the things in the garage and I told her I would leave you the garage door open so she can get it.

All morning she keeps talking about the joint accounts and how we need to split everything up and get this over with fast as possible. I text back that I'm not in the right state of mind to discuss financial matters right now and we need to slow down on that stuff. I did put a freeze on our savings so neither of us can pull from it. She hasn't even filed and it takes 3 months I think once you file. She replied that she just wants to speed everything up and move on fast as possible. 5 min later she asked why did we get married. I havent replied. What do I do??! Ignore all this? Or what do I say?

Reply to what you need to.

You can tell her that her things are in the garage, and if she'd like to do a last walk through on the house you can arrange a time to do that, but that you'll be there with her.

You can tell her that you are prepared to split accounts as soon as the lawyers have met to advise how to move forward. You can validate that you understand she wants this done quickly and you won't do anything to slow the legal process down.

I wouldn't reply to the marriage question.
If she blows you up about other things I would reply to what was business related.
If there are examples of things you feel warrant a reply outside of that post them here first and give it some time.

Don't TELL her you are only going to focus on business, just SHOW her by doing that. Actions speak louder than words, but that has to be the focus.

It's like talking to the police. You can't help yourself, and can only hurt yourself. Keep your mouth shut, create distance, be mysterious. She shouldn't know how you're feeling. (I wouldn't have said "I'm not up for dealing with this right now", that's too emotionally revealing, distance distance distance!)

You got this.