jade - Does it matter? What's your motivation for doing this? I've left my W on mine (which she uses to fund birth control to be with OM) because I'm not out of pocket and it doesn't interfere in my life at all.
I personally think one of the fundamental rules of DB is "don't be an @ss" but I don't believe that to be a universally held view. Looking at it from the longer view, when your W wakes up and notices this great guy she left behind, what do you want her to remember about you? Keep in mind too that anything you do that affects her will be magnified in her mind 1000 times as she re-writes the marital history and used as part of her justification that leaving was the smart thing to do.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
