The reason that we say not to believe anything they say is because they are an emotional and depressive mess and what happens when people are emotional and depressive? Anything and everything comes out when they are angry. They threaten, they say that they are going to file and then don't. They lie like it's a profession for them, they promise things and then don't follow through and they will say things to make you think that you are off your rocker. Their life's filter is black and will say things about you and the relationship which you know is not true. You can't believe anything they say.
As for only half of what they do...they push, scream and push some more and some of them say that they want a divorce or they want you to leave them along w/no contact. Well, guess what...they drag their feet, they don't provide documents to their lawyers, they make excuses for not doing their share of the work for divorce, etc. They don't follow through on what they say that they are going to do for you and your children. Oh, yes, they may say that they are going to do something fun w/the kids and then they don't. They go to the MLCers place and the kids sit in front of the TV or on their ipads and phones while dad/mom is doing something else. In many cases, they just can't follow through on things.
Depression plays a huge role in what they say and/or do. If you haven't done so, read up on depression. Many of them say that they are going to do something and yet, they have absolutely no energy or desire to do it. Their memories become mush and they are forgetful of things in the here and now, but can remember things from the past. Again, depression plays into this.
Bottom line, their actions do not match up w/their words. Actions always speak louder than words.
