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Sorry about the sadness. It sounds like you have made some big steps and are doing lots of good stuff for you. I've thought a lot about motorcycles in my future...


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I love motorcycles, only problem was for so many years access to one and me always prioritizing wife, family, everyone else kinda got in the way.

Being out on the road, you are hyper aware of your surroundings. sights, smells, the breeze, the heat coming up from the road. Its as close to freedom as it gets. I'd rank it up there with wingsuit gliding which i hope to one day try.


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27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
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Felt like relapsing today. The urge to snoop suddenly came over me. I didn't but it definitely bothered me how much i wanted to.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
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9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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Good job on fighting the urge to snoop. I used to snoop everyday and all it did was build anxiety. The thing is I never really found anything but you wouldn't believe the stories I could make up with the information I was gathering. Once I stopped the snooping and stalking on social media my mind was much more at ease.


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Yea, i unfollowed her on any social media as soon as seperation started. I dont know why all of a sudden or maybe i do at the sudden rollercoaster.

Was literally arguing with myself on whether or not to snoop. Its the worst when driving in a car, so much time to think. I've been hopping onto the bike for this very reason, on the bike there is no thinking. Just riding.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
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27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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Just journaling.

Hard day yesterday. Signed the sales and purchase agreement for the house. Felt miserable, on top which its her turn with s5 until next week.

I've developed an almost obsessive attachment to the bike. Without s5 i dont use the car no more. To much thinking while driving. Just want to stay on the bike, hear the roar and put in the miles on it.

Might pop over the border with the bike for the weekend if i didnt need to save so much money for holiday getaway next week. Or maybe i could do a day trip. Its a 5hr journey to and fro.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
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9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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Glad you have an outlet. You might look into meditation and/or cognitive behavior therapy to help with the non-stop thinking. I have and continue with both and they help. Stay safe!


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- s4
- m 11 yrs, t12
-ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM
- bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa
- 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
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I might just do that jug. I cant hop on the bike all the time, trust me i'm itching to all the time.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
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9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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Originally Posted By: Natus
Felt like relapsing today. The urge to snoop suddenly came over me. I didn't but it definitely bothered me how much i wanted to.



Yep!

It's all illusion too, the i am ultra happy and smiling stuff.

And the monkeys going yeah, looking great, better than ever, go to it. Your new R suits you. Etc etc

Bleh

However when you need true Intel FB is a great place to go.

And remember the bike, go bike like the champion you are.

V


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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Right V. Noone wants to know you are in pain, so you smile and wave and jump the hoops.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.
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