Also, about "getting her pregnant" -- is it really all your fault? Did you and your wife have a conversation to establish that you are to be held responsible for withdrawing? She always has the option to stop it herself, or ask you to use a condom.
I figure that nothing is "all one person's fault" in a marriage. However, at best, I made a really foolish decision. I personally feel that I made an outright stupid decision. I have to own this. I don't think anything productive can happen with my W unless I do.
