Re: She moved out...now the work begins...Part 3

[Surfer]

SBJ

W lost her Engagement Stone whilst at the place she met OM (EA) with her wayward friends. I bought a new one and had it reset - reassured her etc. We were in a bad place then. She left, took kids, took the ring off. I had the same view as you. I no longer wear mine. Still married still separated. I sometimes reach to fiddle with my wedding ring. I am not sad, I am happy and not having a ring helped me detach.

My advice. Do what you want to, what feels right. It's not a big deal really. It's just a piece of metal. Your M is just a piece of paper. Your R - now that's something to work on for you, your W and your kids. I know I am trivialising the M, ring etc (I obviously know they are immensely important) - don't misread what I am saying. Think of it this way, if you had to let 2 things out of the 3 (M, ring, R) which would you let go to let the other survive. With me I would want the R to survive so I could hope to make things work for us all - in whatever form that is.

Keep your chin up. It will all work out. I am happy, a great dad and a great person. I didn't see it for a while. Work on you, GAL and be happy dude - it's all there for the enjoying now!!

Surfer.