Your situation may well be different, but I think you're still pursuing and she's still running.
The perfect metaphor just occurred to me! You stall an airplane and the nose falls. You're instinct is to pull up, but you know that you have to push down to regain airspeed. Right now, you're stalled and you need to do the opposite of what you're currently doing so you can regain airspeed and start flying again. Does that help?
I'm NOT divorced and happily recovered and my opinion is that you are NOT pursuing and doing what doodler proposes above will only result in you ending up divorced like him.
You've successfully delayed her through withdrawal and, like my wife and many other (former) wayward wives, her rationalizations and justifications have convinced her she's not in love with you and won't ever be. She's not going to change her mind because you ignore her and "gal". Some GAL stuff does make you look more attractive but there has to be some strategic pursuing occurring to get more quality time with her in order for her feelings to begin to change.
Be the husband you choose to be. Presume you are lovable and perfect for her (God's gift to her - she just doesn't realize it right now). If she responds to that great. If not, that's her loss. Refuse to talk about or participate in any discussions about divorce or separation and go after her versus just sitting around waiting for the magic fairy to come along and change her feelings.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
