Cheesy, re-read what Vanilla wrote on 11/19. It's just the right mix of holding onto your boundaries still being loving, kind, gentle... and never the doormat. Is it kind to not respond to her request for help with MIL's computer? Remember, she's trying to figure out what she wants. You can be nice without being a pushover. When we talk about the lighthouse, I picture something standing tall and bright -- something we are drawn to. Something that guides us home. Not something that has conditions or has its claws out. Again, what Vanilla said... it's subtle, this DB. All too often we confuse the kindness with being a pushover or not holding true to our own needs and wants. We don't have to be mean or cold in order to hold our boundaries. The lighthouse just is. It doesn't have to explain or justify. It just stands there, a proud, bright beacon. Be that.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
