Yes, I agree with what others have posted. In fact, I'd find it more worrying if you got sucked straight back in..

I also feel little in the way of feelings for XH - sometimes compassion, sometimes rather numb, some disdain, then compassion, then very little, then keen to just leave it all behind.

Truly, I'm not even sure I would consider reconciling and moving on seems like the more attractive option. Then I remember I have been dealing with 'new XH' for almost 3 years now and I don't like 'new XH' much.

I would just accept the feelings and keep moving forward for now. Though I can see it must feel more difficult when you share a home and he is being nicer. Maybe just see how things unfold over time.

Glad you had a nice time anyway :-) xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus