Hi Feyth, I can recall finding it really difficult challenging things too. Part of me just wanted to say - oh heck it I'll just go with that. Then another part would think - heck, I'm not going to be betrayed, lied to and stitched up in a settlement too! I guess the feisty part won out and I don't have any regrets.

Ultimately, I didn't take XH to the cleaners - but I did insist on a fair formula being applied - total assets - minus what we each came in with (taken by each) and the rest split 50/50. I had to go through all the feelings you had in order to stick with that plan as XH suggested a range of things far short of that. He would toss things out and I would go back and say - we're just waiting for X before we consider that...and so on...

I don't believe you will regret it if you quietly and calmly stay the course. If I can do this, you can too! Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus