Hi Feyth, I can recall finding it really difficult challenging things too. Part of me just wanted to say - oh heck it I'll just go with that. Then another part would think - heck, I'm not going to be betrayed, lied to and stitched up in a settlement too! I guess the feisty part won out and I don't have any regrets.
Ultimately, I didn't take XH to the cleaners - but I did insist on a fair formula being applied - total assets - minus what we each came in with (taken by each) and the rest split 50/50. I had to go through all the feelings you had in order to stick with that plan as XH suggested a range of things far short of that. He would toss things out and I would go back and say - we're just waiting for X before we consider that...and so on...
I don't believe you will regret it if you quietly and calmly stay the course. If I can do this, you can too! Xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I'm glad the meeting w/the lawyer went okay. As long as you are fair that is all that matters. Now, in his mind, nothing will be fair no matter what...but I know that you will do right by your h.
Try to remain as calm as possible and don't forget to breathe along the way! If you have to step back a bit and regroup, that's okay.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
