She moved out...now the work begins...II

[SBJ]

Vapo, I know this, but I guess I am one of the hard-headed guys that need many 2x4's before it sinks in.

She called me today surprised that I have hired an attorney. She thought that I was just going to use hers and agree to everything. It kind of felt good that she realized that I wasn't just going to agree to her like my usual self. I'm not saying that she used me as a doormat, but I have been extremely flexible over most of our marriage.

I'm not going to railroad her on the D process, but I'm not going to lay down and take it either. She is definitely not the woman I married, but I can still see her in there somewhere. Maybe letting her go thru with her D is the answer...I simply don't know, but I am having to accept it and try to figure out my life moving forward.