Here we go again....

[matw]

So the last few days have been decent and I am continuing to work on myself. I am trying to detach more and more everyday and hopefully getting to a point that I am not affected by my W actions.

So on Thanksgiving my W had to work. She works at the at the front desk and they were giving her time and half for working the holidays. She had the kids Wed night and took them to the gym with her (they have daycare). So I went to the gym, worked out, then took the kids home with me. When I talked to the W I kept it light didn't really say a whole lot to her. Later in the day I took my kids to my parents house for Thanksgiving dinner where my W met us. Again we all talked and had fun with no serious conversations. My W had the kids Thursday night so they left after a few hours and I went home.

On Friday my W called and asked if she could bring her comforter over to the house to wash it. She had spilled coffee and wouldn't fit in her washer at her apartment. I told her that was OK. I was already planning on taking the kids to see Trolls and wasn't going to be home. So she came over with the kids and we left shortly after to see the movie. It was a great movie and my kids really enjoyed it. Then back home to spend the rest of the day with the kids.

On Saturday I went to the gym in the morning and again saw the W. Talked to her for a little bit(she was working). After getting my kids from my parents(they were watching them while I worked out) I decided to go support a our mortgage broker friend and our realtor friend her where doing a Small Business Meet and greet. These two ladies know our story (the mortgage broker is really good friends with my W). They were both very helpful this past summer when my W and I were looking at buying a new house (back when we were getting along great and before the I need space now). It was fun talking to them and supporting them. After visiting with them I took the kids to the local Jr High so I could do some HIIT cardio (Sprint the straights walk the corners). Then back home for some quality time with my kids.

On Sunday I got a bit of shock seeing my W posting some pictures of her going out with her step sister on FB. If I am honest with myself I will say it affected me but not as much as it would have a few weeks ago. So I am seeing a little progress on the detachment stand point. Other than that spent most of the day with my kids playing and having fun. Took off to the gym at 2pm to lift with a friend.

Overall it was a pretty good few days. I am finding myself getting a little stronger every day. There are still things that bother me and I find myself obsessing about but I am trying to push past them. Slowly I am realizing that no matter what I will be ok. Some of the true tests will be this week when I don't have the kids. I am taking Sandi's advice and have plans for what I will do to fill my time. That way I don't act out of loneliness or hit a bad spot emotionally.

Tonight I am planning on doing some cardio after work then going home to just rest and relax. Tomorrow night I will go to a kickboxing class and hang out with my friends there. I need to get some GAL activities ready for this weekend and will be trying to plan that during the week.