She moved out...now the work begins...II

[SBJ]

You are right that I have not fully detached. I am honestly working on just focusing on me and my kids, but I am finding it extremely hard. Like you, J20a00g, I have spent 25 of my 46 years with her. It is a loss that I never imagined that I would incur. Maybe I took our M for granted, but I really thought that we'd break the D cycle in our families.

I am realizing that she was emotionally divorced from me for a long while, but that doesn't mean I was. I am also having a difficult time with all of the rumors circulating in our small town that she left me for OM. My brother, who loves in another state, heard from one of his frat brothers, who heard from a friend, that was a BIL of one of my wife's friends that she left me for this OM...I know that was a mouth full but that was the way it worked.

I still don't have any proof that they have a physical R, but I do know that they had an EA. Supposedly they ended the EA in mid-July, but she claims that there is nobody else. Again, if I were truly detached, I guess I wouldn't be thinking about that EA/PA at all...right?