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I don't write much on my threads any more basically because I have nothing new to add about my situation. Compared to others here I have less to complain about. Yet I would not wish my situation on anyone. One day I hope to share my learning with my sons to help them have better Rs. But I often wondered what advice I would give them in my situation.

I truly value the concept of M and the commitment given on that day. But I would hate either of my sons go through what I have the last few years.And again I realise other spouses here behave a lot worse than my W. I really admire those who continue to stand in such circumstances.

Friday evening some friends organised a nighttime jog on country paths near us. I had never done that. I enjoyed it. Plus it ticked a lot of box s for me.
# GAL
# sport
# with friends
# out of the house
# something new

It was followed by drinks and food until the early hours!! In the room there were two married men without there wives. One couple in long term R but not married and two couples of divorced guys with new girlfriends. We had no babysitter, but I suspect that suited both of us!!

Another guy from this group wasn't there but he is the WH I mentioned earlier. He is moving out at the end of the year. That will be the fifth couple breaking up since I decided to work towards saving my m two years ago. Back then I thought we would have been the first!

Saturday we were 21 years together. I don't really consider us as being together but we are not separated. Anyway I bought a card and put a simple message on it. I gave it to her just as we went to bed. Until then neither of us mentioned it. It got a smile (though maybe forced! Idkj) I got a thank you kiss. I said happy anniversary and she replied the same.

I honesty can't say if we are better or worse than two years ago. Either way we are not good. I am different though. I am stronger. I was better a while back but am confident I will get back on track again.

I spoke with IC last week for first time in a long time. She wasn't pleased that I still hadn't followed her advice to talk to W and tell her this didn't suit me and state my needs. It has been nine months since any R talk. She kept talking about basic needs and what R should entail.I said I totally agreed with her and said it's by choice and not fear that I have not broached this subject.

Sunday we had neighbours over for lunch. It was nice to have the two families interacting together. Keeping up appearances!!

So all and all, I had a good weekend.

I have other issues to deal with so that is my focus at the moment. Plus I am putting together my actions for 2017. Time to unstick myself!!