My wife is at university but does it from home online and her Uni is in another state so there isn't anyone that she would be spending any time with from there. I am going to keep my distance so she can do what she wants - she has to live with her choices. If she is having an affair then that's her choice and I will deal with it.
As for now I do not see her with anyone else - maybe I am right and maybe I am wrong but my gut tells me it's not the case. For now I see her as a walk away and I will treat her with love and patience and if she is cheating then I will adjust my approach as needed. I will not snoop and be needy to see what she is doing. Either way - there is a limit to how long I will do this for...I won't be sitting here for years as she comes and goes. I will drop the axe on the situation once I feel I have done all I can. I don't know how long that will be. I will give her enough time to decide when she will leave and then I will discuss my thoughts and let her know that I won't be part of her moving out. Then she can see the reality of her choice. She may love it and then I will see that she isn't the person I married anymore and so be it. I am not going to let this rule my life and my future ....I love her and would love to share my future with her but if she doesn't want to then I won't be sitting around moping about it. She has told me how she feels and she knows how I feel. I am able to get on with life with or without her and won't lose my integrity over it. I'm a patient rock - I've done lots of work on myself and I like it. I'm here living life - she needs to either take some time and slow down in her decision to run away or she needs to just run away. I'll be here loving life with my beautiful children.
M 44/ W43 TOGETHER 26 YRS M16 S13/S10 ILYBANILWY JULY 16 STILL LIVING IN SAME HOUSE
