Hi Tad, I'm pleased to read this and it sounds as though you have a gently growing friendship that could turn into something more.
Why push things I would say? You have a 'friend - date' planned and go and enjoy yourselves. Let go of your need to know - 'will you go out with me?' And enjoy the company and conversation.
It certainly sounds as though this girl likes you. You may want to take small opportunities for physical touch - maybe on the arm, shoulder, gently guiding the lower back etc - or taking her arm. Or asking for a hug at the end of the event..or a kiss on the cheek - 'may I give you a little hug?' 'May I kiss you on the cheek?'
I am friendly with a guy at work and have known him for years. He was always married and more recently I was married. And then he and his W D'd (he was an LBS - I love you like a brother - then quick R with a new guy - 3 kids) and then we D'd.
So, we find ourselves at work with a gently growing friendship (and some attraction I think) - but I do find him reticent at times. And the thing with pushing with a reticent person is - I think you risk further reticence or complete loss of the friendship potentially.
Also, in your situation Tad, I know you have struggle to get out and do things at times. You may just want to enjoy having a friend and companion to hang out with and have fun tasting some more of what life has to offer...
I'm pleased for you - relax and enjoy it....oh, and wear some nice, woody cologne for those 'lean in' moments - I love that
Xx
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