The last time he had a "routine" surgery his heart stopped and he was on a life support for a week. That's when the MLC started to show.
Interesting......you do know that there's a strong association between depression and heart attacks, or being on bypass machines, probably the same for life support. This may well have been a physiological cause for his MLC. (I still believe my ex's MLC was aggravated by the several concussions that he had in his 40's. That knowledge didn't change our ultimate outcome, but in my more benevolent moments, I try to remember that he might have brain damage contributing to his obnoxiousness. )
I can't maintain my Buddhist compassion for him all the time, but I do feel better when I can feel that.
