MLC H at age 32, maybe single mum with a toddler S

[Maybe]

Hi Rose, and everyone else who recommended detachment,

I am reading DR again about last resort technique. My interruption is that like detachment, it requires one to pull back, GAL, and when S is interested, be interested but cool, and wait and be sure of S is reinvesting again to start investing yourself. Pretty much just mirroring your S, and let S pursue if that is their wish. I understand that detaching is the answer, and GAL is about putting the focus back on me. DR talks about having Goals. My ultimate goal is have my family back. I know some may think I am using children as an excuse to hide my fixation on H. Well, maybe, I don't want to argue with myself what I want and don't want. I have a million reasons why I want H to come home. I had never doubted that he is a good man. Even with the lies. He was supportive to me for the last ten years, I WILL try as hard as I can not to interfere his journey. But at the moment, I want to act if he is just being away at the moment, and yes I will use this time to better myself. And I am a lot more comfortable with the interested but cool approach, coz detaching is still confusing for me.