Hanging on and hoping for the best

[BillyHo]

Had a very busy day yesterday. Had to work until about 2. At around 12 I sent W a text that I would be out most of the night. I got home and went about my business, doing my bills, getting my banking in order and getting cleaned up and ready to go out. Ever since I caught her in the lie a couple nights ago she has been trying to engage me in small talk and acting as if it never happened. I have been very limited in my responses and not interested in interacting with her. As I'm doing things she finally says "is there something we need to talk about?" She said "we had a couple of days with good convorsations and then since the other night you are acting different". I calmly said "the other night was not a good night and that I am not interested in any conversations until we can be honest with each other". I then went back to what I was doing.

This was really tough for me since I am one to want to talk things out. I am not sure if this is considered setting a boundary or not but I feel these conversations are pointless if she is going to lie to me to hide what I have to assume is OM. It amazes me how she can not talk to me for 2 months and think that's ok but I don't talk to her for 2 days and she is constantly trying to engage me in conversation. I also think it's very telling that as early as the next day after confronting her she was acting as if nothing happened. If I was being falsely accused I would be pissed for a while. I think maybe she thought I was buying her BS excuses but when I told her we can't talk until she can be honest there can be no doubt in her mind now.

I left and had a great night out with my BIL and another friend. We picked up my new SUV, went and had some wings and then went over to another friends house to hang out for a few hours. I got home around 11:30 and she was still up. I got ready for bed and she kind of hovered around in "my" MBR taking off her jewelry. She asked if I liked my new truck and I said it's great and jumped into bed and went right to sleep.

She is going out today with her "sisters". It's funny how once that trust is broken you think everything they tell you is a lie. So now I am going to continue to try to detatch and not be concerned if she is being truthful or not. It is s lot easier said than done.

Any comment on how I am handling this sitch would be appreciated.