MLC H at age 32, maybe single mum with a toddler S

[Maybe]

Hi zues,

Thanks for your effort in "getting through me":) I largely agree with you, that really standing for a M is not to pursue, but not to retrieve either. Fighting does sound controlling, and yes my issue is that I can't bear having my son traveling between 2 homes growing up, I can do my best to influence but the result is out of my control. If I am to decide to quit, I guess i might move back to where I am from so my son can grow up with family around, not always a one on one companionship either with dad or mum. But I don't want to do that just yet.

I will try hard to detach. I haven't, but I act as if in front of him. To fightin, thanks for sharing that. Let's both work on it while cheering each other on:)

Thanks bsb and everyone else to jump in and "have a go" at me. I need it! I am a very stubborn girl, something else to work on:(