Hi zues, I appreciate you following my post and giving me valuable advises. I have to report I still can't see myself being where you are anytime soon. I keep saying I am too scared to hope, now I understand it's because I do hope. I remember reading J3B's post saying his motto is I may quit tomorrow, but today is not the day. I will learn how to love in a distance. I am allowing myself to be happy with what happened yesterday coz if i don't recognise and encourage H when he shows behaviours that I appreciate, then I am not "monitoring results" and recognising progress.
I will continue to believe none of what they say and half of what they do. But I haven't been happy about us for a long time. I am happy that we are communicating, and able to say we appreciate each other's effort in a very difficult situation
You can notice his behavior without letting it affect your mood.
You can detach and monitor at the same time. Detaching is so, so critical to a healthy relationship. It's worth the effort to learn how to do it.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
