Just let her vent and let her be angry. She's got to find her own way through this. Detach, 180 and GAL. Focus on you and your issues. Become the man that she would be a fool to leave. I think your interaction with her above is exactly what you need to be doing.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
