where to begin or end?

[Rose888]

It has nothing to do with you being "good enough."

It might have to do with a bad pattern the two of you got into, but that's not about your worth.

It also might have to do with not having to cook the turkey. (Or maybe not, because you do the cooking? Not sure.)

When you're ready, you might want to think about whether you made trying new things feel like capitulation. (Not saying you did, but I've seen it happen.) Also whether you worked for a relationship where each person could enjoy what they liked (like coffee and turkey and ham) whether their partner liked it or not.

But again, it's not about your worth.