Is that what you really feel about her? If so, then this comment makes very little sense...
Originally Posted By: JK
Which is why I am still fighting for my M even though I am D'd.
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She did state at one time during our conversation that we are still tied to each other because of the boys.Which is why I am still fighting for my M even though I am D'd.
More confusing thoughts that you share... She is correct...it is a fact that you are tied together because of your sons...but this fact does not have a hidden meaning...your statement indicates that you added meaning to it...
JK,
We are not our thoughts...but when one continues to voice the randomness of the thoughts and emotions that flow through, they begin to take actions...actions that are not necessarily in line with what is good and what is not...poor emotional health and behavior tends to stem from this pattern. Ongoing statements of the random feelings and emotions one feels leads to random actions that can be called selfish... Please read up on emotional maturity...
"Emotional maturity refers to your ability to understand, and manage, your emotions. Emotional maturity enables you to create the life you desire. A life filled with happiness and fulfilment. You define success in your own terms, not society's, and you strive to achieve it."
What you share with us demonstrates much emotional immaturity on your WW's part... There is much demonstration for growth for our friend JK as well...
You and your family are in my prayers... I will continue to nudge you to step back and look within for what it is that can make you happy, while treating those that you feel wronged by with love and respect...
“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” ~Dale Carnegie
“Show respect to people who don't even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” ~Dave Willis
"Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity." ~W. Clement Stone
I still look to your journey to see a shift...a shift in you...when this happens much of the quality thoughts and advice from the good people here in our community will rise up and guide you out of the chaos that you continue to feel and potentially feed.
I challenge you to step back...be still...look inside and you will find answers...strength and divine guidance to do what is right...not what feels good...not what is logical as you put it on paper...not in an effort to have others validate you...but what is right for you...for your sons...for your WW...
Be well, be still, look towards the peace you can feel when you follow the path that you are meant to, today my friend.
Peace and love to you brother.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
