Hi Rose, It was more a passing comment - she seemed really unhappy with how things were panning out (not saying that she wants me back), but maybe this isn't what she imagined.
I know that I can only work on myself and my own life and felt that I was able to demonstrate this. I have no idea what if any impact this may have, but felt proud that I was able to show that I'm not a broken man (even though I feel like this sometimes).
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Hey darkness. It wasn't so much her mood that was shaping my perception of being on the right track bc her moods are so volatile I've given up 2nd guessing them. It was more the actions I'd taken.
The only reason I spoke to her about her b'day was to try and ascertain if she was going to ask me to switch weekends.
Her sadness was more an observation really and I wondered if that for someone who wanted something different from life, if it was 'normal' for a WW to be living such an unhappy life - it just seems strange that I'm the one (hopefully) making progress and she appears to be miserable and stuck....
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
OK, so have received the below email from the W: "Have you thought about what you are doing Christmas do you want joseph? Mom has asked me to ask you if you want to come for dinner you are still welcome and I have no problem if you wanted to come. If not and you want joseph for the day then let me know."
HELP!!! what do I do here?...
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
OK, so have received the below email from the W: "Have you thought about what you are doing Christmas do you want joseph? Mom has asked me to ask you if you want to come for dinner you are still welcome and I have no problem if you wanted to come. If not and you want joseph for the day then let me know."
HELP!!! what do I do here?...
If it were me, I would try to take my son to my family's or friend's or something. I dont think I would want to go to STBX's to 'play family' just because it's Christmas.
Yeah I'm inclined to say no - think it will be too difficult.
Ive since had a text from her with kisses on the end - followed by a quick apology as she was walking, followed by a further text that says... "the kissess and the invitation don't mean that I've changed my mind, just mom asked about Christmas and i was distracted when texting"
Nothing like bluntness!
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
Guys, Happy Thanks Giving to most of you all the way from me in the UK.
Question for you, how do you all cope with Christmas and loss of a family? Do any of you do the 'family thing' or is it just a straight up separate day?
My W (from MIN) had asked me to theirs for lunch but I have gratefully declined - thought it would be too hard for me. However the W thinks its best for her to come round in the morning and watch our S open the presents and then go....
My thought was for her to have him Christmas day with her presents and then me to have him the day after and I'll do it all over again with my presents.
I'm mindful that we do what is best for my S (not whats best for me & the W) and would be grateful if you could share your experiences...
As always, thanks guys.
M - 36 / W - 32 S - 3 Together - 18 Yrs / Married - 10 Yrs Bomb Dropped - 4th Sept 2016 Moved out - 4th Sept 2016
If your mind is like mine (and I hope it isn't), the news about the gym will quickly cause you to think about her motivation for getting in shape and making her body look better. From there, the imagination just goes everywhere, none of it good . . .
It [censored]. All you can do is try to acknowledge the thoughts, not try to fight or control the feelings, and find healthy distractions.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
