Thank you Job for responding so quickly...your calm words helps so much to settle me down again.
I'm in a real mess this morning. Any contact I have with him just sets me off. So I think NC is the best for me right now.
The kids and I have already made plans for a completely different Christmas and New Years. We are going skiing for the first time and MIL will be joining us (not for the skiing bit...she's 91). H told told S26 that he will be spending it alone traveling and golfing...but that's the same lie he has used all summer when he was avoiding talking about GF...so who knows what the truth is anymore...
Is it strange that if he is actually spending it alone I feel so sad for him that I want to invite him to come with us (I already suggested back in Sept that he could come if he wanted to rejoin the family...). How can I feel so sad for him when he is causing so much hurt to me...
H seems to be cutting himself off more and more from family and friends even when they try to be non-judgemental...is that normal? Apparently the few guys he still sees he doesn't talk about what is going other than to give the impression that we are all fine and that he is in touch regularly with us?? I really wish he had someone that he could open up to other than GF...she has her own agenda so probably not giving sound advise, me thinks...
